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Monday, November 9, 2015

Birthday - Maria Shriver's 60 Life Lessons on her 60th Birthday - Time Management

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 60 Life Lessons on her 60th Birthday
featuring LOVE AFTER LOVE - Time to look in mirror and Look at your next Lover in the mirror!
by Maria Shriver (see her blog 'MARIA SHRIVER - Empowered by Inspiration)

As you know, I’ve been thinking about turning 60. Actually, I celebrated my birthday on Friday, so I guess now I’m thinking about being 60 (!).
Ten years ago when I turned 50, a good friend gave me a framed poem, Derek Walcott’s “Love After Love.” At the time, and for years after, I didn’t know what to make of it. What it was supposed to be saying to me, guiding me to, helping me with?
But, days after the beginning of my sixth decade on earth, I can say with all clarity, that I know now. That this poem exactly reflects where I am and where I’m going. I am feasting on my life. And I wanted to share it with all of you today.



LOVE AFTER LOVE
The time will come
when, with elation,
you will greet yourself arriving
at your own door, in your own mirror,
and each will smile at the other’s welcome,
and say, sit here. Eat.
You will love again the stranger who was your self.
Give wine. Give bread. Give back your heart
to itself, to the stranger who has loved you
all your life, whom you ignored
for another, who knows you by heart.
Take down the love letters from the bookshelf,
the photographs, the desperate notes,
peel your own image from the mirror.
Sit. Feast on your life.
∼Derek Walcott

 That’s what I’ve been thinking this week. Now#PassItForward and tell me, what are you thinking?

60 Life Lessons for My Birthday

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I’ve been thinking about birthdays…especially mine as it’s this week!!! In our family birthdays are a big deal. There is always a homemade cake, balloons, cards, a fun celebration of the gift of life.
The truth is, I love any excuse to have a party and I especially love to celebrate others. But it’s always been a bit harder for me to celebrate myself; it pushes me outside my comfort zone. But with the encouragement of my friends and family, I’m changing that. I’m allowing myself to be celebrated…even writing that feels weird…but I’m going with it and going for it!
So as I stand on the cusp of a new decade, I’m focusing on all the gifts in my life and on all the lessons I’ve learned throughout my life. I’m happy to say I’m looking forward to the next frontier, even though I admit I don’t really have a master plan for what that entails like I did when I turned 30…that’s okay though, because since then I’ve learned that life interrupts the best of plans.
Friends and family die without warning. You can end up disappointing yourself and others. People you counted on don’t come through, but then again — total strangers can also show up and guide you to places you never imagined. Life is indeed a magical mystery.
So in its honor, here are 60 life lessons I’ve learned along my journey. I shared some of them with my kids this New Years, whereupon they burst into tears and asked me if I was dying. Lordy Moses.
I share them with you now in the hope that they might help you on your own journey to live more authentically, to live more of life without judgement of yourself and/or others, so that when the time comes for you to go, you have fewer regrets about what you didn’t do and more pride in what you did.
  1. There is nothing about life that’s predicable, so stop trying to predict it.
  2. Find every excuse you can to celebrate it.
  3. Love the age you are and stop wishing you were a different one.
  4. Stop worrying about what others think. It’s a huge waste of your time.
  5. Stop wondering if God is listening, just have faith He/She is.
  6. Be grateful to anyone who has ever loved you or tried to love you. I know I am.
  7. Know that shit will happen in life. You think you will not be able to withstand, but you can and you will.
  8. Be kind to your body, it will be with you for life.
  9. Believe me when I tell you: diets are a waste of time. I’ve tried them all.
  10. Don’t believe people who tell you they can eat anything and still be so skinny! They are fibbing.
  11. Moderate everything but laughing.
  12. Don’t be scared to be a parent, trust your heart.
  13. Make friends with your children’s friends. They’ll make you laugh and give you valuable intel.
  14. Keep a pair of clothes from high school. Not to check if you can still fit in them but for the memories they hold.
  15. Hold your children over and over again and then let someone hold you.
  16. Get smart about money as early as possible.
  17. Save money from every paycheck.
  18. Buy comfortable sheets, you’ll spend a lot of time in them.
  19. Know that no matter how smart you are, you cannot change someone else.
  20. Stay out of other people’s business. Dealing with your own is a full-time job.
  21. Be kind, cause everyone is struggling.
  22. Don’t engage in gossip, it always bites you in the ass.
  23. Don’t mistake gifts for love.
  24. Stay in connection with your childhood friends and introduce them to your grownup friends. Make yours a generous tribe that’s connected not only to you, but to each other.
  25. Spend time alone when you are young so it won’t scare you when you are older.
  26. Write thank you notes to people for their time and their wisdom. See both as a gift.
  27. Look people in the eye when you talk to them. And at least once, look into someone’s eyes for five minutes straight. You will learn something.
  28. Sit down to family dinner every night. If you can’t do it every night, make Sunday night family night.
  29. Play games with your kids (my favorites are Capture the Flag and Uno).
  30. Give your kids a Get-Out-Of-School pass to use for a special day with you.
  31. Keep an open table and an open mind.
  32. Be of service.
  33. Travel with your kids. It will broaden their horizons and strengthen their bonds.
  34. Don’t assume anyone is better than you or you are better than anyone else.
  35. Don’t ever sit out of an election. You have the gift of living in a country where every vote matters. Use yours.
  36. Learn how to turn off the critical voice in your head as early as possible.
  37. Every year write down your regrets then burn them and leave them where they belong: In the ashes.
  38. Listen to your gut. It knows more than anyone else you are asking for advice.
  39. Practice prayer/meditation. It will keep you in check with yourself.
  40. Never think your work life is more important than your family.
  41. Don’t think bad stuff won’t happen to you. Learn how to push through. Head up, shoulders back.
  42. Don’t allow anyone to shame you.
  43. Get good at forgiveness. You will need to practice it throughout life.
  44. Know that forgiving doesn’t mean going back to what was. It means going forward with love. You get to decide what that looks like.
  45. If you want forgiveness, ask for it.
  46. Get good at letting go.
  47. Don’t expect people to be perfect. You are not…neither are they.
  48. Learn how to communicate in your own home. If you can’t find your voice get help.
  49. Don’t think that reaching out for help is a sign of weakness; it’s a sign of strength.
  50. Therapy isn’t a waste of time. It can save a friendship, a marriage, your life.
  51. If you marry and it comes to an end, don’t let anyone tell you you have failed. Be grateful for the love you had, the memories you made, the lessons you learned.
  52. If you have a pity party, make it short and then move on.
  53. Don’t see yourself as a victim, see yourself as brave.
  54. Be brave enough to write your own story … and then rewrite it.
  55. Be brave enough to try love after you heart has been broken.
  56. Spend time in nature, it calms your mind.
  57. Spend time around people who see you, who celebrate you, who want the best for you.
  58. Stay connected to your siblings and don’t come between them and their partners. My four brothers are my past, my present and my future … and I like all of their wives.
  59. Take care of your parents when they age, it’s a privilege.
  60. Have faith that your best days are ahead of you. That your next frontier will be your most fulfilling time. And that you deserve to be seen as good enough just the way you are.
#PassItForward
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Sunday, November 1, 2015

How To Beat Daylight Savings Time - Be Healthier and Have an Extra Hour, Too (well, sort of)

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How To Beat Daylight Savings Time - Be Healthier and Have an Extra Hour, Too (well, sort of)

 

Are you like us and prefer Daylight Savings Time - and would prefer to keep it all year 'round?

Well, it's not that difficult to do that.  You don't have to depend on everyone else and be  a sheep and do what they do. Of course, if you have a 9-5 job, it might be a little challenge but you can still get around it.

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1) Don't change your clocks. Don't do a thing

Of course, it doesn't hurt to let your cell phone adjust automatically to everyone else's ways... just in fact you occasionally go crazy and forget if you're supposed to be an hour ahead or an hour behind.

 

2) Maintain your life as you did before November 1, waking up when the sun is just coming up, or whatever...

You now have an extra hour to do whatever you want.  You can get some of the stuff done you normally do late at night when you're more awake, Or, go outside and enjoy the rising sun, albeit maybe a little chilly. Great time to exersize, feed the birds, etc.

 

If you have a  regular job, you just go to work an hour later. Yes, it may be dark when you come home but no big deal.  Too late to go out and enjoy the sun anyway - or, you can get a flashlight, perhaps a heater,  and still do some outdoor activities.  Maybe even catch the sunset depending where you live.

   

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Why Lab Rats Don't Observe Daylight Saving Time

and Humans Are Affected Negatively by Time Change

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EARLY TO  BED, EARLY TO RISE...

 

Someone (Benjamin Franklin?) once said, 'Early to Bed, Early to Rise Makes a Man/Person Healthy, Wealth and Wise.'  Whether or not this is really true, it definitely seems to be healthy and nice to enjoy the morning light, which you won't get in the evening, anyway. True or not, 'early to rise' seems to work for the birds, rats and other animals. They certainly don't change their time habits twice a year.  Thank natural!

   

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So, give it a try - and see if it doesn't work for you. If nothing else it savings you going around the house changing clocks twice a year. But, really, it's the normal, healthy way - the natural way. We weren't intended to change our sleep cycles twice a year. Let us know how it goes for you... and pros or even cons...Succeed@RoadToSuccess.us

     

How To Beat Daylight Savings Time - Be Healthier and Have an Extra Hour, Too (well, sort of)

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THE BRICK - A Parable to Live By - Wake Up America





Read this today and don't delete it
  even if you are too busy! You'll see..
 
THE BRICK 

THE BRICK - A Parable to Live By - Wake Up America


A young and successful executive was traveling down a neighborhood street,going a bit too fast in his new Jaguar. He was watching for kids darting out from between parked cars and slowed down

  when he thought he saw something.

As his car passed, no children appeared. Instead, a brick smashed into the Jag's side door!He slammed on the brakes and backed the Jag back to the spot where the brick had been thrown.
 
The angry driver then jumped out of the car, grabbed the nearest kid and pushed him up against

  a parked car shouting,  
'What was that all about and who are you? Just what the heck are you doing? That's a new car and that brick you threw is going to cost a lot of money. Why did you do it?' The young boy was apologetic.'Please, mister...please, I'm sorry but I didn'tknow what else to do,' He pleaded. 'I threw the brick because no one else would stop....' With tears dripping down his face and off his chin, the youth pointed to a spot just around a parked car.. 'It's my brother, 'he said 'He rolled off the curb and fell out of his wheelchair and I can't lift him up.' 

Now sobbing, the boy asked the stunned executive, 'Would you please help me get him back into his wheelchair? He's hurt and he's too heavy for me.'
  
  
Moved beyond words,the driver tried to swallow the rapidly swelling lump in his throat. He hurriedly lifted the handicapped boy back into the wheelchair, then took out a linen handkerchief and dabbed at the fresh scrapes and cuts. A quick look told him everything was going to be okay. 'Thank you and may God bless you,' the grateful child told the stranger. Too shook up for words, the man simply watched the boy push his wheelchair-bound brother down the sidewalk toward their home.

  
It was a long, slow walk back to the Jaguar. The damage was very noticeable, but the driver never bothered to repair the dented side door. He kept the dent there to remind him of this message:


 'Don't go through life so fast that someone has to throw a brick at you to
get your attention!' 

God whispers in our souls and speaks to our hearts Sometimes when we don't have time to listen, He has to throw a brick at us. It's our choice to listen or not.

  
Thought for theDay: 
  
If God had a refrigerator, your picture would be on it.
 
If He had a wallet,your photo would be in it.
 
He sends you flowers every spring. 
He sends you a sunrise every morning . God loves you very much. 
Send this to every 'beautiful person' you wish to bless.
 
God didn't promise days without pain, laughter without sorrow, sun without rain, but He did promise strength for the day, comfort for the tears, and light for the way. 
Read this line very slowly and let it sink in...
 

If God brings you to it, He will bring you through it.

THE BRICK - A Parable to Live By - Wake Up America